{"id":4712,"date":"2026-06-01T08:35:00","date_gmt":"2026-06-01T06:35:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bymconsulting.se\/?p=4712"},"modified":"2026-05-26T16:09:46","modified_gmt":"2026-05-26T14:09:46","slug":"lar-kanna-mig-del-3-min-storsta-forlust","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bymconsulting.se\/en\/lar-kanna-mig-del-3-min-storsta-forlust\/","title":{"rendered":"Getting to know me \u2013 Part 3: My greatest loss became my greatest fuel."},"content":{"rendered":"
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In January 2026, I lost my best friend.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We had known each other for 26 years. She fought cancer for eight. That is a long time to fight. A long time to love someone and watch them fight. And a long time to prepare for a farewell you are never ready for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am not going to write about the grief itself. It is mine. It is private. And it sits where it sits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What I want to write about is what happened in those final conversations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The conversations you never forget<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When life shrinks down to a room, a bed, a window \u2013 everything insignificant falls away. You could feel it in every conversation we had towards the end. No small talk. No filler. Just what actually mattered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was she who pushed me. Repeatedly. With a clarity only someone who knows you inside and out can have.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Magda. Just do it. Don't wait.\"<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

She meant the business. She meant life. She meant that I had waited long enough for the right moment \u2013 and that the right moment never comes on its own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I listened. Finally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happened next<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since January, I have:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Started By M Consulting AB<\/a> \u2013 the business I had long wanted to build, on my own terms, with 25 years of experience as the foundation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Enrolled in my ICC coaching program<\/a>starting in August. A certification I had wanted to pursue for years \u2013 and am now actually pursuing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Become a volunteer with Trygga Barnen and function as a support person for a young adult who needs exactly what I can offer: a steady, trusted adult in their life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Set up my own IT environment to Microsoft business standards. From scratch. By myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Built and coded my own website \u2013 despite never having written a single line of code two weeks ago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not because I suddenly became a different person. But because 'she' reminded me of who I already am.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What she taught me<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Loss shifts your perspective in a way nothing else does.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You stop putting things off. You stop waiting for circumstances to improve. You stop apologizing for taking up space.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I do not want to wait. I want to live now. Fully.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is not a quote from an inspirational poster. It is an instruction from my best friend, delivered from a hospital bed, with a smile I can still see clearly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why am I writing this here?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because this is a professional forum, and we talk far too rarely about what actually shapes us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not just qualifications, titles, and career steps. But the real events. The ones that reshape how we see time, courage, and what actually matters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am a recruiter. An organizational consultant. A senior HR advisor. That is true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I am also someone who lost her best friend and chose to let that make her more alive, not less.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She would have liked that.

\/\/M<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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