Lönesamtal är ett av de få ämnen i arbetslivet där nästan alla parter tenderar att känna sig obekväma. Chefen vill inte ge dåliga nyheter. Medarbetaren vill inte verka krävande. HR vill inte fastna i långa diskussioner.
The result is often conversations that say very little. Vague formulations. Half-made promises. And employees who leave more uncertain than when they walked in.
It does not have to be this way.
Why many salary conversations fall short
The problem is rarely the money. It is often the preparation. The manager has not had time to think through what justifies the salary, how it compares to the market, or what is required for an increase. When the employee asks — and they almost always do — the answer is unclear.
In my experience, lack of clarity is almost always interpreted negatively. An employee who does not receive a clear answer fills in the meaning themselves. And it is rarely the most generous interpretation they reach.
What a considered salary conversation contains
För det första: ett faktaunderlag. Vad brukar rollen löna på marknaden? Var befinner sig personen i löneläget jämfört med sina kollegor? Vilka kriterier använder organisationen för lönesättning?
Second: an honest assessment of performance. Not a sales pitch, and not a list of shortcomings either — but a balanced picture of what the person has delivered and what is required to take the next step.
Third: a clear answer. If the person receives an increase, it should be justified concretely. If they do not, that should also be justified concretely — with clear conditions for what is required.
When the answer is no
The hardest conversation is when the employee expects an increase and does not receive one. The temptation then is to avoid, to be vague, to buy time. That rarely helps. It only postpones the difficulty — and adds uncertainty and mistrust in the meantime.
A clear no with an honest justification and a concrete plan is difficult to deliver. But it is respectful. And in my experience, most people handle an honest no better than a half yes.
Lönesamtalet är inte en förhandling om pengar. Det är ett samtal om förtroende.
If you have thoughts, questions, or simply want to talk something through — feel free to get in touch. I am happy to have an initial conversation with no agenda.
Magdalena Hagström Ståhl
By M Consulting AB
Right person. Right place. Everything changes.